Regardless of my extroverted tendencies, major confrontations have always been difficult for me. As simple as we can make our lives, things aren’t always going to be sunshine, butterflies and blueberries.
A frustrating situation is best met with direct communication about how to make things better. Listening openly, without judgement, and being willing to be vulnerable and potentially get hurt. We have to face that discomfort head on and learn to embrace it fully until it is addressed and solved in the proper way. It may take a long time, it may not.
The twitch makes us think things might improve if we just ignore them. It’s the easiest, most immediate solution to a problem: Just run away from it.
These kinds of things don’t solve themselves. Whether it’s an issue with significant others, co-workers, friends, family, or a broken down car – we have to accept our own flaws, and approach the problem with an open heart.
Like an overtired muscle, tomorrow we rebuild stronger and better, loving ourselves the entire time.
The twitch is the easy out. We’re most likely to twitch when we’re uncomfortable. We look to solve problems in the easiest ways, through buying something, through unproductive activities, or simply running away.
That feeling of discomfort can be torturous, but the more often we face it, learn to not fear it, the better off we’ll be. That discomfort is the feeling of growth. Our disciplines strengthening, our spirits growing, taking on our challenges in life.
The unburned prairie neglects new growth, while the burned is fertile ground.
We absolutely must do that which we most want to avoid doing. That is how we know how important it is.
Out of the fire, new life arises. Break the twitch.